1. Ok, what would you say if your married 4 times sister told you she was having an affair with a married man that has two kids? *sigh
2. What would you say if an online friend told you she was thinking of having an affair?
3. What would you say if your bestfriend told you she thinks her husband is fooling around?
4. Why is my life surrounded by cheaters!?
...... and why hasn't anyone said how cute I am in the picture below dammit!
I'm not having a good day.
12 comments:
1. I'd ask her if I were going to have to be her maid of honor for a 5th time.
2. I guess it would depend on which friend it was and how comfortable I was talking to them about it. I guess I would voice my opinion about it. I wouldn't have to agree with it (and I likely wouldn't agree with it), but in the end it's her life, her decision.
I also would have to consider the situation and who she was having the affair with. Because that could change everything as far as if I decided to continue the friendship.
3. I would help her investigate. But I think I would also try to help her look at her marriage and decide what she should do about it.
4. *sigh* I don't know Tummy.
I didn't see your picture until now. I guess I missed that and never went back.
You are damn cute. And Tummy, Bre is absolutely beautiful!!!
Boo, I haven't been maid of honor once, I don't think I'd start now. And....he's already told her he's NOT leaving his wife. *sigh How did I wind up with a sister I'm 180 degrees different from?
I've already told BFF would could go incognito..and then I got serious and told her to talk to him and they NEED counseling.
*why don't you know? out of everyone I expect you to KNOW things.
*cute head tilt and grin Thank you very much even if it was prompted :) And Yes Bre is beautiful and smart and good, she's all the best parts of me without all of my flaws.
Regarding your picture, I really don't remember seeing it, so I'm glad you pointed it out.
I'll be back in a moment to respond to the other two items.
About your sister, I was kidding about the maid of honor thing because honestly I'm not quite sure what else you could say to her. Except that maybe she really isn't the marrying kind.
Ironically, when you look at the marriage/divorce rate these days, you'll see that marriage has already been redefined. I think that there are many situations and circumstances, but I do find too many times when I agree with someone having an affair.
I had two friends years ago who were having one. He was divorced, she was still married - unhappily married, but married. They had one. She even somehow managed to set him up with his next wife prior to their divorce. I think all is fine among all of them now, but there was a lot of hurt and confusion.
I know you were kidding, I'm just so irritated with her it's hard to laugh about anything concerning it. She sent me an email today with a link to emails you can send that wipes out all records after the recipient reads them. I responded with "I was going to respond with Great just what all the lying, philandering....but then I remembered who I was talking to". Maybe that's the last I'll hear of it. If she's looking for approval she's not going to get it here.
Smooches to you Boo and I hope you have a great weekend.
When I read your "Marriage Tag" post, somehow I had missed your "picnic" post. Your hair is such a pretty color. How did we all miss that post?
*shakes head* What's this crazy world coming to? *hums "Your Cheatin' Heart"*
If I figured out which one is you (bottom center?), you're quite cute. And I agree with the others, so is Bre.
Ah, affairs . . . the lure of More, Better, and Different. But they're rarely any of those. Besides, in the words of Buckaroo Banzai, "No matter where you go . . . there you are."
As I have taken great pains to learn, change has to start from within, not without. I could have an affair on LC, but I don't because I love her and made a commitment to her.
As to #4, cheating has become WAY too acceptable. Not new, just more acceptable.
1. Married 4 times sister should probably find a man who is as adverse to commitment as she is, hook up with him, and never get married. Nothing wrong with not getting married, especially if you can't commit, but please do not screw around with those who can and do (or think they did, or are responsible to someone who did.)
2. If online friend is still in the thinking stage, then maybe she just needs some assurance either to do it, or not do it. You might suggest to her that she should really, really really think about it. Hard. Think about what good could possibly come of it. Think about what hurt could possibly come of it. Compare and contrast. Once it is done, it cannot be undone, and it will change her life, someone else's life, and possibly a lot of other lives forever. It needs to really, really be worth it because no matter what, it will not be happy or pretty and even if it ultimately leads to something good, it will get a lot more painful before it gets good.
3. I'd offer my support to bestfriend for whatever course of action she decides to take. She's going to need an ear and a shoulder, even if he's not fooling around, because clearly there's *something* wrong or else she wouldn't even be thinking it.
4. Because commitment takes a lot more than just saying "I do" once, and people forget that it takes conscious choice to follow through with that idea.
You're totally cute in that picture! Love your hair!
*echoes Frody's Number 2*
Some very wise women around these parts. hugs
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